Beginnings

Do I need another blog? No! I'd very much intended for this to be a professional blog of writing updates etc, but alas since creating it in what I'm told but don't entirely believe was 2007 I've posted Nothing.

I had really, really intended not to become someone who had a baby and immediately became a fucking expert. I've kinda resented folks I know having kids and acting as though they were the Only Ones to ever do this. But, while not becoming an expert, I feel like my experience has been sort of particular, and stressful, and hilarious, and I've already regretted not tracking my experiences of insemination and pregnancy more thoroughly. Because a lot of it sucked, and because my memory is not what it was a year ago.

Some of what will probably come up here will involve:
-having a baby while living alone up a lot of stairs and having chronic pain/illnesses and no washing machine or car
-how baby gear and sex toys seem to have a habit of sharing product names, because clearly they have mutually exclusive markets
-how having a baby changes people and I don't like it
-how having a baby makes you have to/want to/accidentally associate with people I never otherwise would have
-experiences of baby having and gender policing
-my complaints about how queer parenting is written about and exclusion there
-my experiences as a teen mom or rich straight lady, neither of which I am
-how funny my baby is. she's pretty funny. she really likes coughing and sneezing, they make her laugh. also naming culkins, she thinks the culkin brothers have Really Funny names so we've started naming stuffed animals after them.
-becoming plural
-peoples' reactions to my becoming a parent, and to this baby. I'll think about how to write about that respectfully
-parenting when I didn't have much in the way of parents myself
-how to tell your kids about the revolution. really though, as much as I want to be able to share complicated truths about gender, mental health, police and so on, babies' brains can't comprehend complicated and I also don't want my kid treated like she's stupid
-stuff I bought, stuff I shouldn't have bought, thoughts there
-and I may backtrack through some of the pregnancy and figuring out getting pregnant stuff, because it's important context